Twenty Two Days of Blessings...#22daysofblessings

Although, this quote is extremely profound.
There is an alternate answer. STRONG: Stop turning to self and turn to God.

Let the countdown begin... Today is the beginning of Fall in addition to the countdown of a very special day. If you've followed my Blog this post comes as no surprise, however for those that are new here let me share what usually happens during the month of September. 

In the past I've shared a Birthday love letter to myself  reflecting on the year whether if its good, bad or indifferent. September provides me an opportunity to evaluate life desires, dreams, and ultimate destiny to reflect, release, and  begin again; as its a new season. The evaluation soothes my soul while opening up an opportunity for others to engage, while sharing their triumphs or struggles.

This past year has been a time of happiness, disappointments, but in the end magnifying life lessons. Today begins a new chapter where I'm creating the storyline that can end anyway I desire. Through the process I'll consult with one chief to guide my footsteps along the way for it is he who keeps me strong to pursue the greatest gift of all.  Over the next twenty two days my gift to self  is the most precious gift God has provided me: the manual that makes this thing called life all worth wild. 

Come along with me on this journey as I share #22daysofblessings via Twitter: @weplanevents @_Kimberly_Clark  with some of my favorites passages, Aha Moments, Gods Whisper, and original Food for the Soul quotes by me.  The universe has a unique way of showing you a preview of life occurrences, but don't get to comfortable because the storyline can be altered at any given time. Just when you think you're headed in one direction, the universe flips the script rewriting a new beginning. The lesson in it all trust God.

Reminder: It wouldn't be #22daysofblessings if we didn't share the message, so please feel free to Retweet (RT) or reply with a personal message or words of encouragement that just may be a blessing to someone else.  To further keep the blessing moving,  please include the following hashtag with tweet #22daysofblessings.

#22daysofblessings Day 1: Psalm 22:9  "Yet you brought me safely from my mother's womb and led me to trust you at my mothers breast." "I was thrust  into your arms at my birth." NLT

Until next time live FABULOUS...

*To view previous years birthday letters place the title in the search box.

Food for the Soul...Unconditional Love

Unconditional Love

No conditions, only commandments

Two words I receive questions on all the time. "Unconditional Love". Exactly what is the meaning of "Unconditional Love". Although, there are many answers I'll share one that is close & dear to my heart. In order to fully give of yourself to another, you must first trust the process that you are capable to embrace all that love has to offer. Stage One: the details...

My love for you is unconditional. I'll go the the ends of the earth just for you. You say stop, drop and roll, I'm down no questions asked.  I'll continue to follow your footsteps, trust in your word, believe thy will be done and have complete faith in the process. Why? Because you'll do the same for me.  That's the kind of love you're deserving of.

Soulful Reminder:  "I have revealed you to them, and I will continue to do so. Then your love for me will be in them, and I will be in them." John 17:26 Holy Bible NLT (2007)

Until next time live FABULOUS...

A DAY OF HEALING... FORGIVING & FORGETTING

In reflection of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. these two words come to mind this morning. Forgiving & Forgetting. A great man who sought out the unconditional acceptance of others no matter what obstacles he encounter. Although they were high mountains to climb, his persistence in equality set the tone for freedom. Freedom to heal your heart, embrace a dream that you will not be judge by the color of your skin, but the content of your character. 


On this day I honor a leader who took the steps of “Innovation” to make it a universe for all to live without judgment. I ask that you remember this day, but not forget the struggles of the past that have brought about innovation. We still have a long way to go, but greatness doesn't come easy. Continue to build your character to becoming a person of compassion, patience &  grace. Look at others as unique individuals, building them up, not tearing them down by chipping away at their character.

Colossians3: 12-15

Healing...

The healing process of forgiving & moving forward can be the best medicine for your spirit. Holding on to angry isn't healthy nor or you harming anyone, but yourself. Usually the other person has already moved on. In the meantime you are still holding on to toxins in your body that will eventually manifest in your life. Forgiving is a cleansing process that takes time. You must often visit the incident to understand what got you to this place. Regardless if you were the victim or the victor (so to speak) you must come to peace with yourself. Moving on without having a proper burial, will only reincarnate itself in the future. There are no “Winners” in the end.

The Burial-Testimony...

Hi Kim,
 

It was such a pleasure sharing with you on Twitter yesterday. I'm always open to sharing my story if it will help someone. I always tell people to live your life holding a grudge, being mad, angry,bitter, and unforgiving will kill your very soul. One will become sick and unable to successfully live life to the fullest. And truthfully, it will be so hard for anyone to really 

like and embrace you. I'm a witness. To answer your question I grew up hating my father he was an alcoholic who was mean, hateful, prejudice, verbally, and physically abusive at times to both my mother and my siblings.  I never knew what it was like to have a father/daughter relationship like most of my friends did and that really bothered me. My parents divorced when I was 16. I was happy, yet still angry about all he put us through as a family. I'm at total peace now. Even without the relationship. I've learned to be fulfilled in Christ

in all things. Even in the most difficult times in my life.

I now see myself as a survivor (in Christ Jesus). I look back and say it all happened for many reasons. And it all has a lot to do with who I am today. I don't have to live in my yesterday at all for any reason! It's over with its dead and everyone should tell their yesterday to drop dead!

I do hope my testimony will help someone to let go. 

Blessings,

Tywana

Tywana is a fellow event planner & follows me on twitter. Over the past few months she has engage in my Food for the Soul tweets & other postings. If my messages can make you take a step back , thinking of what's really important in life. Then engaging on twitter is a blessing. Tywana sharing her very personal story with me was due to a tweet I posted last week on twitter See below:

My Tweet from @weplanevents: I don't believe N holding grudges. Nothing good comes from it & its not what God desires 4U. Release/move on, but still walk N #♥ UR Thoughts

@TywanaT reply: @weplanevents some may find it hard. But, by faith you can do it. Just know its so much easier to love than it is hold a grudge & be angry.

@TywanaT reply: @weplanevents I'm a witness that life is to precious to live that way.

My reply: @TywanaT You have a testimony to share?

Now for anyone who is on twitter. You know you can only tweet 140 characters. Tywana & I had to take her message to email. Her story was so moving I just had to share with others. You can't let others blocked your blessings, unfortunately it can be members of your family. Although you will go through a deep valley . once you release all the pebbles. The mountain top is clear & bright.

Dr. Martin Luther King message embodies just that. A dedicated husband, father, leader and peace maker. That no matter what, the dream is possible. It takes a team, but begins with you. I commend Tywana for sharing her testimony. With age comes wisdom. A continued healing process over time that has made her surrender to better.

Today being a day of service in honor of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. "I AM" a work in progress “Innovation”. Honoring Dr. King today is a reminder that "Change" is still needed. I'm doing my part, Will you? “Walk In Love."

If you have a testimony you like to share that set you free. Please reply to this post or email us. Your message just might give peace of mind to someone who really needs it.

Food for the Soul...Expect "Innovation." Forgiving & Forgetting can be difficult. On the other hand forgiving heals your heart while forgetting makes it available too beat to blessings instead of burdens. #growth

Until next time live FABULOUS...

Disclaimer: The testimony provided was permitted to share: by Tywana Tyler. If her story help you, please send her a Tweet. You may also view our Twitter thread dated: January 10^th.

CREATE YOUR OWN DESTINY...

I decree  you a "HAPPY NEW YEAR"

I pray that everyone had a beautiful & safe New Year's Eve. As an Event Planner I produce many events throughout the year. For the past few years I have personally decided to bring in the New Year with the one person who “ALWAYS” has my back, continuing to feed my spirit even when I want to push the plate away. Most of you know my motto for life is "Living everyday like a FABULOUS Party". Contrary to belief this doesn't mean partying 24-7, but living an abundant lifestyle in “JOY”. In order for Joy to be a constant provision for me I most certainly need the correct tools to guide me throughout the year. These tools consist of my relationship with God which in turn helps me with my relationships with clients, loves one, friends & associates. On occasion my events fall on Sunday's, but when I'm not working I definitely make it a point to nourish my craving for the word & attend church. Sometimes on Sunday & many times Tuesday & Wednesday night Bible Study. When I can't attend I will watch my home church online and even DVR Joel Osteen.

Ringing in the New Year praying & fellowship at West Angeles COGIC ; Watch Night Service. This is my decision & doesn't take away from choices others make to bring in the New Year how they see fit. Bringing me to my point of creating your own destiny. Create the path in life you would like to take & not follow others footsteps. Be the creator of your own destiny, for you were born alone & will leave this earth alone. A quote I often say & live by. “Don't be a Carbon Copy. Be You, Be Unique, Be a Individual ”. What God has for you is for you. Let know one steer you away from your dreams. Center yourself around positive individuals that will uplift you while also guiding you on a road of excellence. If you haven't done so yet. Evaluate those energy drainers who want to steal your “JOY”. Take a close look there are lots of impostors who are the silent Rah Rah cheerleaders. Make a change today & place them on the bench for good. In order to move forward you often must evaluate where you are in life. If something is holding you back its time to make a trade. The trade is your destiny for a better future. I believe today is that day. I see you in the future & you look much better.

                                                                  

“My experiences change my perception”.

 Evangelist Joyce Rogers

Quote from 12.31.11 West Angeles COGIC Watch Night Service

TAKEAWAYS from 2011

My motto for 2012~ My Destiny ~

Create the blueprint for your success...For the past 5 years I sought out a theme song. This song is similar to a intro for a show. Your life your show, so you would need a song right? Selecting the perfect song is important, as you will need to listen to it for 12 months. Over & Over. The selection must also be uplifting & apply to all areas needed for whatever comes your way. Good, Bad or Indifferent. It must do the trick, while placing you back on the road to excellence. This year “My Destiny” is planned out; literally. Destiny Board set in place where I will view everyday as a reminder to the navigation I need to follow for “2012”. Some items are action goals while others are destiny goals immediate & future. I am the creator & will hold myself accountable while in constant communication with the whisper from my spiritual navigation.

My Destiny 2012 Theme Song

The Best Is Yet To Come~Donald Lawrence

Food for the Soul... God never abandons a dream. 

The promise is still in you! Look ahead in faith and begin to live out the destiny he has for you.

"EMPOWERED" BY BLACK GIRLS ROCK...

I truly look forward to watching Black Girls Rock. Its not so much about the title of the non-profit organization that is now a 2 hour celebration on BET. Celebrating a list of phenomenal women who just happen to be black. This year's BGR hosted by two exceptional women in their own right. Trace Ellis Ross & Regina King. I have a bypass opinion towards  Regina King, because I have seen her evolved into a beautiful woman all while keeping her true identity. And Miss Trace Ross known for her independent roll on Girlfriends.  Both women continually making strives and placing their footsteps in the sand.

Black Girls Rock

B~Beautifully

G~Gratifying

R~Remembrance

that "WE" Matter...

~Kimberly~

BGR- Inspires me to look deep within the essence of not only myself , but also the power of other women. POWER isn't just about leadership. Understanding that each one of us is in control of turning that power within on. Owning the inner essence of who you are ; who you want to be and allowing yourself to have a support team that guides you all the way.

These women are unique, fierce, intelligent, gifted, strong and carry a spirituality full of love dancing to the tune of their own drum. A recipe that consist of vanilla, caramel, caramel latte, mocha, chocolate, and dark chocolate. A complete melting pot of girls rocking to the beat of passion and success. Cultivating the I CAN do anything attitude. Attitude a word that seldom is use in a negative context, however the POWER of the attitude keeps you focused to strive to do better. OPRAH's quote “When You Know Better; You Do Better”. And having a group of women such as these to give you a boost of empowerment that “WE” can do better. I only ask for one thing to those who are reading this post. That women  learn to support each other more, than we tear down. And only then we can all rise to the pinnacle of our destiny. However, ladies you CAN NOT do it alone. It takes support, mentoring & loving each other. Not the side eye, turned up lip, stank attitude that you are better.

This year I'm empowered by all the Black Girls Rock honorees, presenters and talented group of women. Owning your power is about sharing your successes & failures with others. I prayer that one day we can truly be authentically supportive of each other success & triumphs to make life better for ourselves, our families and while keeping in mind there are young women watching our every move.

Regina King & Beverly Bond
Fierce & Fabulous

A rocking shout out to Beverly Bond for creating Black Girls Rock. A positive reminder such as this is just what we need. Giving praising & thanks to the many women who are setting the path of life, that you to can achieve. Regardless if you walk in the footsteps of acting, music artist, producer, entrepreneur, leader & YES, the first woman president. There are many footsteps for you to follow or be unique & create a new destiny. Achieving goals in life isn't easy & if it were easy you wouldn't appreciate the blessings. 

Let this be a present reminder to Never Give Up.

P.U.S.H {Push, Pray Until Something Happens} . And when it doesn't happen when yo expect it, know deep down in your heart that God knows & understands the vision for a life of abundance.

In closing if you give yourself any gift. Give yourself the gift to surround yourself with like minded individuals that will authentically uplift & support you un-conditionally. If this show doesn't light a fire under you . There's only one additional gift that will. "GOD". Trust, believe & under no circumstance do you give up! Continue rocking while pursuing your dreams & desires. Each day is a new day to be Empowered, Encourage & grab hold of your Equal Opportunity as a Woman.

Trust & Believe and Under No Circumstance

"Never Give Up"

Last year's I ROCK...I ROCK for many reasons but the one I live by is: Living everyday like a FABULOUS Party~not just through living, but loving "ME" and most importantly loving "GOD".

This year's I ROCK:

I ROCK... by God's grace & mercy, that I know through him & him only living in “JOY” is possible. By any means necessary I'm grabbing hold of and not letting go. This means in order to move forward if I must leave a few behind then so be it. On a new navigation of   “JOY”, “GRACE”  “SERENITY”. I will keep driving until I hear his whisper saying my child you have arrived. 

Black Girls Rock: Since 2006 dedicated to the  healthy development of young women & girls. Black Girls Rocks seeks to build their self-esteem and  self-worth by changing their outlook on life and broadening their horizons all while helping to empower themselves. 

The BGR 2 hour show that airs on BET is a format for African American Women to be recognized for their tremendous gifts & talents. However, all women bring special talents to the table and I would love for you to share your I Rock... Please place in the comment section below or place on our Facebook wall.  Remember, please be mindful in the future that we all need support in order to move forward. You may also show your support, by donating to Black Girls Rock.  That would definitely be a I Rock... moment.

Until next time live FABULOUS...

LIFE LESSON IN TRUST...

Going about your day requires patience & grace. Patience that you won't encounter some knucklehead to ruffle your feathers. Grace that you know how to handle without re-acting if it should happen. Part of my daily prayer always includes asking God to continue guiding me in the right direction that is his will for me along with patience, grace and hope. I started to really think about that those words that have consistently been the recipe for my day-to-day. Now, I know the world isn't always peaches and cream. Although that would be super sweet if it was. So when the peach goes bad & the cream goes sour. Who Do You Turn To?


Your first instinct may be to call a good friend. Take a deep breath so you're thinking clearly and not re-acting to the situation at hand. You should be careful who you share your thoughts with especially when everything is a big blur. Taking a timeout to re-gain your thoughts will provide you some solitude in what to do next. Having a confidant you can turn to is great. Having someone who has your best interest at all times is priceless. I had a moment in time yesterday that I needed to take my own advice. Instead of leaping out to a friend I knew there was a better way to handle what I was feeling & the relief I needed. Something I tell myself daily is: Let No One Steal Your Joy.  But, we're human & although I try to live a stress free life thinking happy thoughts throughout the day. The mood does shift from time to time. Where Should I Turn? PRAYER... In my moment of praying for answers with the situation I was dealing with. I had an Aha Moment of "TRUST". Trusting in God, that the exact issue I was upset about was something I had been praying on consistently for the past month. Not recognizing it at the time, this is exactly what I ask God for. And finally he answered my prayer just on his timeline. Placing trust in God that he will provide you the answers when the time is right. The word trust came over me seven times over. Re-evaluating what had taken place by just breathing, centering myself to think logically. To then realize I hadn't applied the three words I always include in my prayers everyday and yes the first thing I wanted to do was call a girlfriend  just to vent. Life comes with challenges and what may be monumental to us is a piece of cake to God. Trust in him to navigate you through the bad traffic of life.

To my surprise when I called one friend she didn't answer. I started to call another, but was interrupted by a incoming call. The funny thing is I know God intervene at both times guiding me to seek him. My Aha Moment of this story is TRUST. Placing your trust in God & not man. Friends, Family, Associates & Relationships will disappoint you. God will never disappoint you, lead you down the wrong path or give you bad advice. In no way Am I saying friends give you bad advice, but at times you're seeking a conflict of interest advice. Trusting takes 100% commitment and no one has your back more than GOD. You may be in the middle of a life challenge now or face one in the future. How the recipe turns out depends on if you use the right ingredients. The recipe is TRUSTING in God. To do this calls for Guidance, Grace, Patience and Obedience in seeking God's will. Trust God and not Man to guide you through the perfect recipe. We all have minor hiccups in life its part of growing and becoming a better you. I'm back on my square and ready to get in the game called life. There's a reason for In God We Trust being placed on our currency. If you know the reason why, please share by commenting below or should you had an Aha Moment we love to hear your story.

drezrehersal Tip... Life Lesson I learned today is that it takes year's to gain trust and just a single moment to destroy it. Place your trust in God's hands for he will never forsake you or betray you by sharing what you bring to him in "TRUST".

Never Would Have Made It

Food for the Soul...
Psalm 12:6: The Lord's promise are pure, like silver refined in a furnace purified seven time over.


Psalm 13:5-6: But I trust in your unfailing love. I will rejoice because you have rescued me. I will sing to the Lord because he is good to me.

Psalm 37:4: Take delight in the Lord , and he will give you your hearts desires.

Once Upon a Time Engagement Chicken...

Getting to the I Do’s ~ The Way to a Man’s ♥ is through his Stomach & Recipes to Get You Everything You Want in Life

There are many factors in being the best wife possible. Years ago, our mothers & grandmothers were stay-at-home moms. In this tough economy, most couples are equally the bread winners. Nowadays, you balance a career, family, friends, and on top of all those responsibilities, you’re preparing to be someone’s husband or wife. I have an inside sneak peek for any woman who is newly engaged, newly married or preparing to get to the I Do’s and wants to stir the pot – in the kitchen, in love, and in life.


OK, I must say I have the best of both worlds. I adore my career, I love entertaining, and I like to eat. Oh, did I mention I’m a great cook, as well? As a child, I absolutely loved watching my mother & grandmother cook in the kitchen from scratch. What is Scratch? A home-cooked meal made from all fresh ingredients, not from a box & most of all, made with LOVE. Since I was a little girl, I was told, "The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach". Needless to say, it’s not the only way, but an important detail. Ladies, when you know how to cook — “REALLY COOK” — for your man, there’s no greater joy than to see the pure essence of love on his face when he sits back and says, “Aww baby, that was delicious.”

PERFECT!!!
For any woman who wants to stir the pot-
in the kitchen, in love, and in life

Once upon a time true story…Getting to the I Do’s — There was an easy roast chicken recipe, handed down by a fashion editor at Glamour Magazine to her assistant, who was in search of a dish to prepare for dinner with her boyfriend. She made the chicken. Her boyfriend loved it. He had seconds. And shortly thereafter, he proposed. But that’s not all: Three more young women at the magazine made the chicken for the men in their lives, who then, in short order, popped the question. Soon after, Glamour published the recipe, dubbing it, naturally, Engagement Chicken – and since then, the magazine editors have heard from more than 70 women who have gotten engaged after making the dish. Commitment-phobes be warned: This bird means business!


Sneak Peek… Now, most of you know I’m an accomplished wedding & lifestyle producer, and the Los Angeles Go-to-Girl for Glamour Magazine. The reason behind why I have my hands on a copy prior to it going on sale. But, I’m providing you a sneak peek and giving you a heads up on a few of the details…
Cindi Leive and the Editors of Glamour have put together not just any cookbook, but a cookbook that includes 100 recipes every woman should know. From breakfast & brunch, nibbles, drinks, soups & salads, meat & poultry, seafood, pizza & pasta, meat-free mains, sides, cheap & easy meals, sweets and menus for any occasions, big or small. Whether you’re an expert in the kitchen or a novice eager to learn, it’s a fun book for the single ladies to get together & test some recipes out, or the newly engaged couple who wants to share an evening together cooking in the kitchen. And Ladies who want to get to the I Do’s… the cookbook has several “Engagement Chicken Success Stories.” The book will be in stores April 5, or you may reserve your copy now, and just maybe this time next year, you’ll be saying I Do…

The Famous "Engagement Chicken"
Watch Video Clip of
Engagement Chicken Success Stories

the details… The recipe titles are fun, inviting and a little sexy. Here’s a peek at one of my many favorite recipes.


Simply Sophisticated Seared Tuna
1 tablespoon peeled and minced fresh ginger
1 garlic clove, minced
2 tablespoons brown sugar
¼ cup soy sauce
2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
2 6-ounce tuna steaks, about ¾-inch thick
Salt and freshly ground pepper
1 tablespoon olive oil
2 scallions, thinly sliced


Directions:
1. In a deep dish or pie plate mix the ginger, garlic, brown sugar, soy sauce, and lemon juice. Stir until combined.
2. Season the tuna generously with salt and pepper on both sides. Place the tuna in the dish with the marinade and turn to coat. Cover and refrigerate for 1 hour, turning the fish at least once.
3. In a large cast-iron skillet, heat 1 tablespoon oil moderate-heat.
4. Remove the tuna from the marinade, pat dry, and add the steaks to the skillet. Cook, turning once, until browned and just cooked through, about 8 minutes total. Transfer to plates and sprinkle with scallions. Serve. (If desired, heat the remaining marinade in a small saucepan and boil for 2 minutes, then serve with the tuna).


Yes, I’m a sucker for sushi and this will hold me over until I’m able to go to my favorite sushi spot. I have two treats for you!
First Treat…On this upcoming GLAM’ONDAY we will be tweeting titles of additional recipes that I think are fabulous for entertaining on all levels using the hashtag: #100recipes @glamr100recipes. Follow us throughout the day @weplanevents and feel free to RT the tweets you think sound yummy for your tummy.


Just a reminder that we think love, engagements and marriage go hand & hand. It’s an equal playing field, and I personally think it’s sexy when a man says, “Honey I got this!” And gets in the kitchen just as good as I can. Even better is doing it together as a partnership. Guys, flip the script, and learn the recipe to engagement chicken, and maybe she’ll be proposing to you. (Smiles & Happy Cooking).





"I Want Everything in Life Giveaway"

 Second Treat…I Want Everything in Life Giveaway


A fabulous evening for 50 single engaged or married women in the Los Angeles area, learning some of the famous recipes from the cookbook alongside a celebrity chef. The evening will take place at the end of summer, just in time for la-la land fall entertaining. Please email the following information: name, email, phone number & wedding date, if engaged. In the subject line of the email, write “I Want Everything in Life Giveaway.” Deadline to submit information is Friday, July 1. All lucky participants will be contacted by email on Friday, July 8.

drezrehersal Tip…Marriage is a serious commitment & you must look past the bling, because once all is said and done & your guests have celebrated with you, eaten with you & cried tears of joy with you, the real planning process is just beginning. Learning to be a husband & wife. This requires a list of ingredients: 1-cup of Respect; 1-cup of Commitment; 1-cup of Communication; 1-cup of Intimacy. ALL ingredients must be marinated well in order for the recipe of Love & Marriage to succeed in a Partnership.

Until next time live Fabulous…

the I Do's... of Black Marriage Day

ARE YOU
MARRIED & PROUD OF IT?

Today March 27th more than 300 community groups nationwide will host film screenings, talks, and red carpet gala events inducting local couples into the Black Marriage Hall of Fame.


I’ve been blessed to choose a career I absolutely love with a passion. Seeing couples dreams come to reality is a joy in itself. However, with that comes much responsibility, trust & new found friendships. I could honestly say we become the blueprint that keeps the couple on solid ground during the planning process & far often after the I Do’s. OK let’s get in out the way now. Yes, I’m single & my love is to GOD, but I’m married, committed & respect my craft. Being a Wedding & Event Planner for over 18 years I have acquired much experience & wisdom spending an enormous amount of time with not only my clients, but their immediate family members. It’s a commitment we whole heartily believe in and share the importance of it during consultation. It can’t be about the wedding, but the process which develops into a strong union.

Ask yourself these questions before the I Do’s…
~ Is he/she right for you?
~ Does he/she L ♥ v e God with his/her whole heart and soul?
~ Does he/she actively try to know God’s will for his/her life?
~ Is he/she praying man/woman?
~ Does his/her actions align with his/her words?
~ Is he/she trustworthy?


The answer should be YES to all… Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? In order to have a healthy relationship always remember you are no longer “Singular” its “Plural” about “US”. The couple must focus on the lord first in order to make it work. Always put him first and you will walk hand-hand, side-by-side. Make him the center, not mommy, sister, girlfriend, the guys, your stylist or the ultimate betrayal another man or woman. Your mate or spouse should be your best friend and all communications must be with each other with guidance from god. I think you get the picture.

L ♥VE & Marriage Recipe:


Marriage is a serious commitment & you must look pass the bling, because once all is said and done & your guests have celebrated with you, eaten with you & cried tears of joy with you. The real planning process is just beginning. Learning to be a husband & wife. This requires a list of ingredients that must be marinated well in order for the recipe of Love & Marriage to succeed.

Ingredients:
1-Cup of God
1-Cup of Respect
1-Cup of Commitment
1-Cup of Communication
1-Cup of Intimacy
Directions: All ingredients must be mix well & each partner must contribute their full portion of the required ingredients for the partnership to work.
Disclaimer: Do not substitute recipe



drezrehersal Tip... You're no longer
“Singular” its “Plural” about  the "UNION"

My 5 Tips for a Successful Marriage:

1. GOD (A Must) Husband, L ♥ V E your Wives, Just as Christ L ♥ V E the Church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any blemish, but holy and blameless.
He who L ♥ V ES his Wife L ♥ V ES Himself, For this reason a Man will leave his Father and Mother and be United to his Wife, and the two will become one flesh. Ephesians 5:22, 31

For Better or Worst I Choose Him First

2. RESPECT (For Each Other) This should be an area that needs no explaining what’s so ever, but we know each day won’t be peaches & cream and neither will your attitude. What goes on in your household stays within the foundation of your union. Respect each other enough to keep your business your business as well as stand hand in hand when in others presence. The Union should walk in agreement with each other & of course that won’t happen all the time; however it shouldn’t be broadcasted in front of others. If there is a disagreement with eyes watching go with the flow & discuss it at a later time when you both are alone. RESPECT the Union at all times.


3. COMMITMENT (No Matter What) The important thing is that you keep your heart right and don’t lose hope. Don’t allow discouragement, your busy schedule or the hurts from your past to cause you to miss what God is doing in your life and marriage. Most importantly, don’t give up on being blown away by God’s favor. Once you say I Do be fully committed to the development of the relationship-No Matter What.


4. COMMUNICATION (Partnership) a close mouth doesn’t get fed & no one is a mind reader. If there is an issue discuss it! Communicating is about effective listening. You can’t be listening clearly if you are all geared-up and ready to speak your opinion or rebuttal. So often we aren’t truly listening to one another & when you’re angry; your guard immediately goes up. Communication is an on going stimulate good, bad or in-different. Share your wants, needs and concerns with your partner on a daily basis. And most importantly communicate with God. Husband Pray for your Wives & Wives Pray for your Husbands. Seek him & communicate for humbleness, open heart, direction and blessings over your marriage.

5. INTIMACY (Not Sex) Whatever you did to get each others attention prior to marriage. You must continue throughout the marriage. Court each other, date one another, hold hands, leave special messages in different areas of the home, call your spouse for no apparent reason at all., send them a text and say just because. Make a constant authentic effort to continue all the special things you did when you were just a couple dating. The simplest pleasures will keep your significant other beaming ear-to-ear. God designed marriage to be one human relationship that guarantees authenticity and the intimacy it produces. You shouldn’t have to look any farther than your own marriage to find your most intimate and meaningful relationship. And above all pray that God will continue to provide you and your spouse the gift of emotional intimacy.

Just Let Go...He Is Yours & You Hers So
WHATEVER Goes

drezrehersal Tip… I want you to create a details L♥ V E box, chest anything you like to store cherished keepsakes of why you feel in l♥ve with this man or woman. I want each of you to place 6-8 items that were given to you by each other or from a momentous occasion during your courtship. Keep it where you can see it daily and after the wedding when times get rough either or both of you go to it and remember why you fell in l♥ve and what each of you brought to the relationship that made you say this is the prefect Man/Woman for me. Your disagreements may not seem so important when you look back on what made both of you say I Do.

We Want to Hear from You

Married Couples we want to hear from you….There are a lot of strong black marriages out there and we want to hear your secret for a long lasting union. Please comment by responding to this post, as I know LOVE is alive & strong and we need to showcase positive images for all to see. You may also email us if you like to be kept anonymous.

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In the Presence of Spring...

Welcome to “SPRING” Ohhhh the sound of spring just makes you want to move into action and do a few jumping jacks. Spring can mean many things to people; A time for rejoicing, rejuvenating & revamping. Spring for me equals a fresh start. A time of freeing your mind, body & soul. I open my arms to grab hold of all God’s Greatness…with that comes cleansing. Looking deep inside your soul searching an inner presence that belongs & purging what has no place to move forward.

GODDESS OF SPRING
ARTIST: HANS ZATZKA

Letting go and moving forward doesn’t always mean you no longer have a want or need for a certain existence in your life. It just means your existence is much more important and the life of happiness you wish to spring into action requires Tough Love. In order to live the life God wants you to have it doesn’t require you to let obstacles, walls & naysayers stay in your presence. What you can accomplish with two or three; you can defiantly accomplish with one. And the one that counts most and continues to be by your side is “GOD”.

Happiness is a decision you make, not an emotion you feel. Make the decision to live in happiness. Your happiness! Throughout my day, I have the opportunity to speak with many people. On occasion what  I hear is un-happiness. Individuals going through their day-to-day non-existing. You can make a choice to live a fulfilled life. No matter what you’re going through; know Today is A New Day! Many setbacks you’ve had; Today is A New Day! Don’t settle, don’t stay stagnant. Step above, Step beyond just existing. If your spouse doesn’t have faith in you & the naysayers continue to hate. Walk in his presence & say to yourself Today is A New Day. Think “SPRING”…Spring your thoughts in the right direction and place your focus on today.

The minute the energy shifts PRESS PAUSE than move FORWARD for Today is A NEW DAY.



PRESS +





PAUSE + PURGE



 ÷ SPRING FORWARD = A NEW DAY

drezrehersal Tip...PRESS + PAUSE + PURGE  ÷ SPRING FORWARD = A NEW DAY…

ASK KIMBERLY...TALK 2 ME TUESDAY

ASK KIMBERLY receives many questions by email on everything from relationships, weddings, events & lifestyle day-day issues. Although we try to answer them all it just isn't possible. So we have started Talk 2 Me Tuesday where you can join us by ping on Yahoo Messenger  & have the opportunity to communicate with me on a private chat & ASK KIMBERLY anything related to the above topics. Have a One-On-One with me when you see I'm signed into Yahoo! Messenger!

Our scheduled chat time will be from 2:00 pm - 3:00 pm PST, however there may be times where we may skip a Tuesday due to us being on the move planning events. If you're un-able to join us  you may still email  ASK KIMBERLY your question & you just may hear the answer live on her Get-Up Close & Personal CinchCast. We like to be hands on & share our expertise with you, whether you're planning a small dinner party; need decor advice; or just have a puzzling relationship question ASK away.



ASK KIMBERLY
Talk 2 Me Tuesday
2:00 pm - 3:00 pm

Here's How It Works...
~ When reviewing our Blog you'll see the Pingbox toward the right of the page. On Talk 2 Me Tuesday we're available from 2:00 pm - 3:00 pm PST to answer your questions on all things relationships, weddings, events or lifestyle planning.

~ You'll see Available within the Pingbox; Enter nickname to chat with me; then just type your question into the box. Be patient though, as we may be chatting with other ASK KIMBERLY visitors. To be added to our contact list & be the first to receive updates, please send us a request @weplanevents. However we like to know who you are, so if your profile on Yahoo isn't set-up, most likely you won't be added to our database.  This helps us update our Un-Subscribe list properly should you decide not to receive future updates.

In the very near future we will have a in-detail scheduled ASK KIMBERLY  where we all get to engaged with each other. You just may see a question ask by a visitor that you didn't even think of.

Until next time live FABULOUS...

Disclaimer...IMs between you and each Pingbox visitor are private. Only you and person you are chatting with can see the IMs, even if there are multiple visitors viewing our web page. Our scheduled chat time will be from 2:00 pm - 3:00 pm PST, however there may be times when we may skip a Tuesday due to us being on the move planning events.

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BITTER to BETTER PART II


In the Process of Finding & Loosing
Love~ You Found You...

A Mini Love Story on Finding & Loosing Love
Read BITTER to BETTER PART I

You arrived & showed up ready to go with your sweet nothings & overzealous ways to impress & court me 100%. The journey of us wanting to know one another more is amazingly blissful, my heart can barely contain the steady beats, but my head is saying GIRL please this isn't a fairy tale this is reality & you better get real & recognize the storm is coming. You take a moment & evaluate the situation as if its a business plan, but should be more like a partnership out-weighing the pros & cons. Before you know it a revelation has presented itself! This could be the best relationship you have ever encountered, just what LOVE should be. You start to understand the only storm that is coming is your past meets present. You're bringing past hurts into your present & turning something GREAT into "BITTERNESS"  from the past. Just because you were disappointed in the past doesn't mean its your present.

One thing women need to learn is how to release past hurts. What you're holding on too as luggage can jeopardize your future. Life is about many lessons- you either get it or you continue to go through life with a knife in your heart that you just can't seem to pull out. So as you try & move on to the next relationship you wonder why your heart still hearts.

What needs to be the Life Lesson is God has a "BETTER" plan for you. Yes, that old saying you need to kiss a few frogs to receive your prince. It goes both both ways- its called dating for a reason. Don't get wrapped-up & all involved in the dating process & mistake he/she for Is This The One? Before you can be 100% with your future prince you must be one with yourself. Love You~Learn You~Be You before you can be a friend, girlfriend, wife to your prince. He's out there & waiting for you, however your time-line & plan is not what matters. Once God is complete with you , he will openly send you your destine mate because you are now open to receive & be a "Better" you.

Align your gifts, talents & know you deserve "Better".  It's God's priority for you to have a mate that will honor you & cherish you as the Queen you are. From this day forward step out of "Bitter" & move towards to "Better". Leave your past hurts in the past so you're able to openly receive your "Better". Relationships take work, however know when Bitter should be Better & if you aren't receiving respect than its time to pack your bags, honor yourself and move on to the present, as there's a "Better" prince in your future.

drezrehersal Tip... Act in Faith & not Fear, that its God's plan for you to recognize Better want Better because you deserve "BETTER".

Disclaimer: This story is based on a one-on-one with a beautiful individual.