HAPPY BIRTHDAY LOVE LETTER ...FOOD FOR THE SOUL

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LOVE LETTER TO KIMBERLY
REFLECTING ON THE YEAR
"FOOD FOR THE SOUL"

Dear Kimberly (Me),

Another year has come & gone, so much to reflect on. Where should I start... A year of dreams, promises, challenges and disappointments. The best part of it all. I'm Still Standing. Standing tall filled with inspiration and ready for what I know will be my best year yet. WHY? I discovered loving me on a level that is undeniably the greatest pleasure of knowing thyself. Highly flavored with flaws & all. This Dear Kimberly letter is a Love Letter to Me on the most precious month of all. My Birthday month. Every year I write a letter to myself reflecting on the past year. (View last year's letter) Birthday's are a celebration of you. The best present you can give yourself is PUSH each year to be a better you. Reflect, Refine and Research your trails, tribulations and transform them into positive assessments.

My Glamourscope via Glamour Magazine says: It's Going To Be A Big Love Month. Which makes my Birthday Letter title just Perfect! The full moon in Pisces on the 12th and the new moon in Libra on the 27th will cast a dreamy glow over all of us-a cue to let your inner Aphrodite call the shots. Wear a pretty dress, write a love letter to your man, chat up the ridiculously hot IT guy or just indulge in a romantic-comedy marathon. Then decide with whom you want to reenact it, and make it happen on either of those days-or both!

Whew... What a month I have in store. The love letter is covered with minor revisions; to Me and well play everything else by ear. Lot's to look forward to. The Glamourscope is all in fun. Learning not to take yourself so seriously while handling business when need be and the pleasure when time permits. Regardless of your age its never too late to improve you. Taking the proper steps to reflect and discover your calling. Just what I do every year at this time. Me stepping out on faith, hope & grace has kept me having a positive attitude, even when things aren't a bouquet of roses. I'm constantly working on Me. If God can continue to love me unconditional. Then I surly should do the same with no whining & no regrets.

My title for this post is “LOVE Letter to ME”. Taking care of numero uno is essential in life. Learning to live a lifestyle that is pleasing to God, while meditating continuously on Mind~Body and Soul is key for me. One of Virgo's traits is wanting to keep the peace and making sure everyone is happy. It took me a few years to learn that its a balancing act with your happiness & others happiness. Keeping the peace isn't always an option. God wants us to love our neighbors and treat each other with respect. Forget about that old saying respect is earned. That quote definitely isn't in the bible. And getting & receiving respect doesn't always happen which brings me to my Aha point. You must learn to love from a distance. What is good for you, may not be good for me. You can love it, but I don't need to like it. I have a higher calling to answer to and that is my ultimate focus. Below I'm going to share a few LOVE HONORS that I vowel to myself  for my Birthday and honoring into the 2012 year.

LOVE HONOR: A vowel, commitment, promise that one makes to themselves in order to live their best life in the eyes of all that is GOD's Greatness.

COUNTDOWN...OK this year I'm honoring LOVE and for the next 22 days up until my Birthday September 22nd I'll share I Honor Love By... To see my daily “LOVE HONOR” Like our Facebook Page or Follow Us on Twitter. That's where my LOVE messages honoring Me, will be shared. Loving you isn't a selfish act. Its loving you enough to honor all the greatness God has in store for your life, while you're here on earth. God has a remarkable purpose for your life, So what you have to do is follow him, believing that he'll keep directing you. Without battles, there is no blessings! And, there's no better time then now to honor yourself and live your best life.

Over the next 22 days you'll see insight into my aspirations, goals and dreams going forward. In addition you'll feel my words and life lessons I learned over this year. Although I'm all about the details I'm not perfect and have made some great successes, but also came across a few disappointments. The disappointments are stepping stones for me not to repeat but delete from my life. I review my year much like an entertainment system. There are three buttons I refer to Play (Following God's Footsteps) Rewind (Time to Assess) Pause (Delete) This means in business and personal life. If you want greatness in life you need to have the right players. In any sport when the players aren't working they get traded to another team. If their lucky. Its important to take time before the New Year to assess the same for your life. My time is before my Birthday. I do this because I know my worth and next to God loving me. I must look in the mirror everyday and there is no other option but to “LOVE ME”.

 September 1st

"LOVE HONOR"

1. I Honor Love By... Putting my love of GOD above all other loves.

Last week this song was sent to me with a note and honestly the timing couldn't have been better.  I knew back in July what the title of this Birthday letter would be. It never ceases to amaze me that when I'm working on a project the universe will send hints along the way. When you're in tune with self & lean on your spiritual connection, listen closely for an approval or dis-approval. The lyrics of this song is beyond inspirational and the essence of a love letter .

I highly recommend to honor you and write your own love letter to self. Extremely therapeutic. Should you like to share your letter with us, please send to ASK KIMBERLY. I must warn you though I will honor your words and hold you accountable for "ACTIONS".

With each year should come "WISDOM". If you're not growing, then you're not "SOWING" the right "SEEDS".

I Corinthians 13:11-14: When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror, then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully know. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
 
Until next time live FABULOUS...

LIFE LESSON IN TRUST...

Going about your day requires patience & grace. Patience that you won't encounter some knucklehead to ruffle your feathers. Grace that you know how to handle without re-acting if it should happen. Part of my daily prayer always includes asking God to continue guiding me in the right direction that is his will for me along with patience, grace and hope. I started to really think about that those words that have consistently been the recipe for my day-to-day. Now, I know the world isn't always peaches and cream. Although that would be super sweet if it was. So when the peach goes bad & the cream goes sour. Who Do You Turn To?


Your first instinct may be to call a good friend. Take a deep breath so you're thinking clearly and not re-acting to the situation at hand. You should be careful who you share your thoughts with especially when everything is a big blur. Taking a timeout to re-gain your thoughts will provide you some solitude in what to do next. Having a confidant you can turn to is great. Having someone who has your best interest at all times is priceless. I had a moment in time yesterday that I needed to take my own advice. Instead of leaping out to a friend I knew there was a better way to handle what I was feeling & the relief I needed. Something I tell myself daily is: Let No One Steal Your Joy.  But, we're human & although I try to live a stress free life thinking happy thoughts throughout the day. The mood does shift from time to time. Where Should I Turn? PRAYER... In my moment of praying for answers with the situation I was dealing with. I had an Aha Moment of "TRUST". Trusting in God, that the exact issue I was upset about was something I had been praying on consistently for the past month. Not recognizing it at the time, this is exactly what I ask God for. And finally he answered my prayer just on his timeline. Placing trust in God that he will provide you the answers when the time is right. The word trust came over me seven times over. Re-evaluating what had taken place by just breathing, centering myself to think logically. To then realize I hadn't applied the three words I always include in my prayers everyday and yes the first thing I wanted to do was call a girlfriend  just to vent. Life comes with challenges and what may be monumental to us is a piece of cake to God. Trust in him to navigate you through the bad traffic of life.

To my surprise when I called one friend she didn't answer. I started to call another, but was interrupted by a incoming call. The funny thing is I know God intervene at both times guiding me to seek him. My Aha Moment of this story is TRUST. Placing your trust in God & not man. Friends, Family, Associates & Relationships will disappoint you. God will never disappoint you, lead you down the wrong path or give you bad advice. In no way Am I saying friends give you bad advice, but at times you're seeking a conflict of interest advice. Trusting takes 100% commitment and no one has your back more than GOD. You may be in the middle of a life challenge now or face one in the future. How the recipe turns out depends on if you use the right ingredients. The recipe is TRUSTING in God. To do this calls for Guidance, Grace, Patience and Obedience in seeking God's will. Trust God and not Man to guide you through the perfect recipe. We all have minor hiccups in life its part of growing and becoming a better you. I'm back on my square and ready to get in the game called life. There's a reason for In God We Trust being placed on our currency. If you know the reason why, please share by commenting below or should you had an Aha Moment we love to hear your story.

drezrehersal Tip... Life Lesson I learned today is that it takes year's to gain trust and just a single moment to destroy it. Place your trust in God's hands for he will never forsake you or betray you by sharing what you bring to him in "TRUST".

Never Would Have Made It

Food for the Soul...
Psalm 12:6: The Lord's promise are pure, like silver refined in a furnace purified seven time over.


Psalm 13:5-6: But I trust in your unfailing love. I will rejoice because you have rescued me. I will sing to the Lord because he is good to me.

Psalm 37:4: Take delight in the Lord , and he will give you your hearts desires.

the I Do's... of Black Marriage Day

ARE YOU
MARRIED & PROUD OF IT?

Today March 27th more than 300 community groups nationwide will host film screenings, talks, and red carpet gala events inducting local couples into the Black Marriage Hall of Fame.


I’ve been blessed to choose a career I absolutely love with a passion. Seeing couples dreams come to reality is a joy in itself. However, with that comes much responsibility, trust & new found friendships. I could honestly say we become the blueprint that keeps the couple on solid ground during the planning process & far often after the I Do’s. OK let’s get in out the way now. Yes, I’m single & my love is to GOD, but I’m married, committed & respect my craft. Being a Wedding & Event Planner for over 18 years I have acquired much experience & wisdom spending an enormous amount of time with not only my clients, but their immediate family members. It’s a commitment we whole heartily believe in and share the importance of it during consultation. It can’t be about the wedding, but the process which develops into a strong union.

Ask yourself these questions before the I Do’s…
~ Is he/she right for you?
~ Does he/she L ♥ v e God with his/her whole heart and soul?
~ Does he/she actively try to know God’s will for his/her life?
~ Is he/she praying man/woman?
~ Does his/her actions align with his/her words?
~ Is he/she trustworthy?


The answer should be YES to all… Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? In order to have a healthy relationship always remember you are no longer “Singular” its “Plural” about “US”. The couple must focus on the lord first in order to make it work. Always put him first and you will walk hand-hand, side-by-side. Make him the center, not mommy, sister, girlfriend, the guys, your stylist or the ultimate betrayal another man or woman. Your mate or spouse should be your best friend and all communications must be with each other with guidance from god. I think you get the picture.

L ♥VE & Marriage Recipe:


Marriage is a serious commitment & you must look pass the bling, because once all is said and done & your guests have celebrated with you, eaten with you & cried tears of joy with you. The real planning process is just beginning. Learning to be a husband & wife. This requires a list of ingredients that must be marinated well in order for the recipe of Love & Marriage to succeed.

Ingredients:
1-Cup of God
1-Cup of Respect
1-Cup of Commitment
1-Cup of Communication
1-Cup of Intimacy
Directions: All ingredients must be mix well & each partner must contribute their full portion of the required ingredients for the partnership to work.
Disclaimer: Do not substitute recipe



drezrehersal Tip... You're no longer
“Singular” its “Plural” about  the "UNION"

My 5 Tips for a Successful Marriage:

1. GOD (A Must) Husband, L ♥ V E your Wives, Just as Christ L ♥ V E the Church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any blemish, but holy and blameless.
He who L ♥ V ES his Wife L ♥ V ES Himself, For this reason a Man will leave his Father and Mother and be United to his Wife, and the two will become one flesh. Ephesians 5:22, 31

For Better or Worst I Choose Him First

2. RESPECT (For Each Other) This should be an area that needs no explaining what’s so ever, but we know each day won’t be peaches & cream and neither will your attitude. What goes on in your household stays within the foundation of your union. Respect each other enough to keep your business your business as well as stand hand in hand when in others presence. The Union should walk in agreement with each other & of course that won’t happen all the time; however it shouldn’t be broadcasted in front of others. If there is a disagreement with eyes watching go with the flow & discuss it at a later time when you both are alone. RESPECT the Union at all times.


3. COMMITMENT (No Matter What) The important thing is that you keep your heart right and don’t lose hope. Don’t allow discouragement, your busy schedule or the hurts from your past to cause you to miss what God is doing in your life and marriage. Most importantly, don’t give up on being blown away by God’s favor. Once you say I Do be fully committed to the development of the relationship-No Matter What.


4. COMMUNICATION (Partnership) a close mouth doesn’t get fed & no one is a mind reader. If there is an issue discuss it! Communicating is about effective listening. You can’t be listening clearly if you are all geared-up and ready to speak your opinion or rebuttal. So often we aren’t truly listening to one another & when you’re angry; your guard immediately goes up. Communication is an on going stimulate good, bad or in-different. Share your wants, needs and concerns with your partner on a daily basis. And most importantly communicate with God. Husband Pray for your Wives & Wives Pray for your Husbands. Seek him & communicate for humbleness, open heart, direction and blessings over your marriage.

5. INTIMACY (Not Sex) Whatever you did to get each others attention prior to marriage. You must continue throughout the marriage. Court each other, date one another, hold hands, leave special messages in different areas of the home, call your spouse for no apparent reason at all., send them a text and say just because. Make a constant authentic effort to continue all the special things you did when you were just a couple dating. The simplest pleasures will keep your significant other beaming ear-to-ear. God designed marriage to be one human relationship that guarantees authenticity and the intimacy it produces. You shouldn’t have to look any farther than your own marriage to find your most intimate and meaningful relationship. And above all pray that God will continue to provide you and your spouse the gift of emotional intimacy.

Just Let Go...He Is Yours & You Hers So
WHATEVER Goes

drezrehersal Tip… I want you to create a details L♥ V E box, chest anything you like to store cherished keepsakes of why you feel in l♥ve with this man or woman. I want each of you to place 6-8 items that were given to you by each other or from a momentous occasion during your courtship. Keep it where you can see it daily and after the wedding when times get rough either or both of you go to it and remember why you fell in l♥ve and what each of you brought to the relationship that made you say this is the prefect Man/Woman for me. Your disagreements may not seem so important when you look back on what made both of you say I Do.

We Want to Hear from You

Married Couples we want to hear from you….There are a lot of strong black marriages out there and we want to hear your secret for a long lasting union. Please comment by responding to this post, as I know LOVE is alive & strong and we need to showcase positive images for all to see. You may also email us if you like to be kept anonymous.

To learn more about Black Marriage Day.