the I Do's... of Black Marriage Day

ARE YOU
MARRIED & PROUD OF IT?

Today March 27th more than 300 community groups nationwide will host film screenings, talks, and red carpet gala events inducting local couples into the Black Marriage Hall of Fame.


I’ve been blessed to choose a career I absolutely love with a passion. Seeing couples dreams come to reality is a joy in itself. However, with that comes much responsibility, trust & new found friendships. I could honestly say we become the blueprint that keeps the couple on solid ground during the planning process & far often after the I Do’s. OK let’s get in out the way now. Yes, I’m single & my love is to GOD, but I’m married, committed & respect my craft. Being a Wedding & Event Planner for over 18 years I have acquired much experience & wisdom spending an enormous amount of time with not only my clients, but their immediate family members. It’s a commitment we whole heartily believe in and share the importance of it during consultation. It can’t be about the wedding, but the process which develops into a strong union.

Ask yourself these questions before the I Do’s…
~ Is he/she right for you?
~ Does he/she L ♥ v e God with his/her whole heart and soul?
~ Does he/she actively try to know God’s will for his/her life?
~ Is he/she praying man/woman?
~ Does his/her actions align with his/her words?
~ Is he/she trustworthy?


The answer should be YES to all… Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? In order to have a healthy relationship always remember you are no longer “Singular” its “Plural” about “US”. The couple must focus on the lord first in order to make it work. Always put him first and you will walk hand-hand, side-by-side. Make him the center, not mommy, sister, girlfriend, the guys, your stylist or the ultimate betrayal another man or woman. Your mate or spouse should be your best friend and all communications must be with each other with guidance from god. I think you get the picture.

L ♥VE & Marriage Recipe:


Marriage is a serious commitment & you must look pass the bling, because once all is said and done & your guests have celebrated with you, eaten with you & cried tears of joy with you. The real planning process is just beginning. Learning to be a husband & wife. This requires a list of ingredients that must be marinated well in order for the recipe of Love & Marriage to succeed.

Ingredients:
1-Cup of God
1-Cup of Respect
1-Cup of Commitment
1-Cup of Communication
1-Cup of Intimacy
Directions: All ingredients must be mix well & each partner must contribute their full portion of the required ingredients for the partnership to work.
Disclaimer: Do not substitute recipe



drezrehersal Tip... You're no longer
“Singular” its “Plural” about  the "UNION"

My 5 Tips for a Successful Marriage:

1. GOD (A Must) Husband, L ♥ V E your Wives, Just as Christ L ♥ V E the Church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any blemish, but holy and blameless.
He who L ♥ V ES his Wife L ♥ V ES Himself, For this reason a Man will leave his Father and Mother and be United to his Wife, and the two will become one flesh. Ephesians 5:22, 31

For Better or Worst I Choose Him First

2. RESPECT (For Each Other) This should be an area that needs no explaining what’s so ever, but we know each day won’t be peaches & cream and neither will your attitude. What goes on in your household stays within the foundation of your union. Respect each other enough to keep your business your business as well as stand hand in hand when in others presence. The Union should walk in agreement with each other & of course that won’t happen all the time; however it shouldn’t be broadcasted in front of others. If there is a disagreement with eyes watching go with the flow & discuss it at a later time when you both are alone. RESPECT the Union at all times.


3. COMMITMENT (No Matter What) The important thing is that you keep your heart right and don’t lose hope. Don’t allow discouragement, your busy schedule or the hurts from your past to cause you to miss what God is doing in your life and marriage. Most importantly, don’t give up on being blown away by God’s favor. Once you say I Do be fully committed to the development of the relationship-No Matter What.


4. COMMUNICATION (Partnership) a close mouth doesn’t get fed & no one is a mind reader. If there is an issue discuss it! Communicating is about effective listening. You can’t be listening clearly if you are all geared-up and ready to speak your opinion or rebuttal. So often we aren’t truly listening to one another & when you’re angry; your guard immediately goes up. Communication is an on going stimulate good, bad or in-different. Share your wants, needs and concerns with your partner on a daily basis. And most importantly communicate with God. Husband Pray for your Wives & Wives Pray for your Husbands. Seek him & communicate for humbleness, open heart, direction and blessings over your marriage.

5. INTIMACY (Not Sex) Whatever you did to get each others attention prior to marriage. You must continue throughout the marriage. Court each other, date one another, hold hands, leave special messages in different areas of the home, call your spouse for no apparent reason at all., send them a text and say just because. Make a constant authentic effort to continue all the special things you did when you were just a couple dating. The simplest pleasures will keep your significant other beaming ear-to-ear. God designed marriage to be one human relationship that guarantees authenticity and the intimacy it produces. You shouldn’t have to look any farther than your own marriage to find your most intimate and meaningful relationship. And above all pray that God will continue to provide you and your spouse the gift of emotional intimacy.

Just Let Go...He Is Yours & You Hers So
WHATEVER Goes

drezrehersal Tip… I want you to create a details L♥ V E box, chest anything you like to store cherished keepsakes of why you feel in l♥ve with this man or woman. I want each of you to place 6-8 items that were given to you by each other or from a momentous occasion during your courtship. Keep it where you can see it daily and after the wedding when times get rough either or both of you go to it and remember why you fell in l♥ve and what each of you brought to the relationship that made you say this is the prefect Man/Woman for me. Your disagreements may not seem so important when you look back on what made both of you say I Do.

We Want to Hear from You

Married Couples we want to hear from you….There are a lot of strong black marriages out there and we want to hear your secret for a long lasting union. Please comment by responding to this post, as I know LOVE is alive & strong and we need to showcase positive images for all to see. You may also email us if you like to be kept anonymous.

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