ASK KIMBERLY...Loving Two Whats a Girl to Do?

 

Q: Dear Kimberly
I'm a single woman currently dating two men, which I'm enjoying the company of both. Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time?

Anomalously Dating Plus 1

A: That's a great question to ask, I'm sure you feel tide between the two of them. While you may have feelings for both of the men, that's  a very strong statement to make that you think you love them both. What you're feeling may be a combination of attraction mixed with confusion because you aren't allowing yourself to be connected to just one. Trying to balance two relationships at the same time ones emotions can easily get misconstrued for something stronger, and in the end not a fair trade to yourself or the gentlemen.  I recommend taking an assessment of your real feelings by writing  five reasons for each on why you love them. I want you to truly take sometime to come up with five answers of substance verses surface. I.e: Martin is attractive. (That's a surface answer, not substance). Get down to the core of character qualities. Upon completion, please follow these 3 Steps  (1) Read once. (2) After reading place aside for three or more days, but no longer than five.  (3)  On day three re-visit your answers. I guarantee you once you place your thoughts on paper  things will become crystal clear.


Many think love is a feeling, however its an action that requires the 3C's: Character, Communication, and  Commitment. The 3C's require participation by two and UN-balanced if only one is contributing.  Try to get pass what you're feeling, because  that is clouding your judgment. Things that make us feel good aren't necessarily good for us, take the emotions out of it so you understand what the true feelings are for both gentlemen. After all is said and done and you still have strong feelings for both, the next step is be honest with both men, as  they should have the option to decide if they want to continue dating you as well. Many are confused by the word dating; the definition has  different meaning for many. Keep in mind both guys may very well know that you're seeing them both, but on the other hand they may not. These goes back to the 3C's "Character" is important in a relationship, if you have none, you can't expect to receive it in return.

Lets Chat...Have a  fashion, beauty, relationship,  or lifestyle question,  email  to Kimberly Clark  our Lifestyle Expert, and you just may see your answer here. If  you like to stay anonymous,  please mention when emailing your question over. Your privacy is our number one priority.

Until next time live FABULOUS...

~Kimberly

ASK KIMBERLY REVIEW~ALWAYS HIT ON THE WINGMAN

Always Hit On the Wingman by JAKE


America's most trusted dating columnist with GLAMOUR Magazine

Any day is a good day when the UPS man shows-up with an unexpected package. It was the most perfect rainy day. Yes, I said perfect rainy day. I love when there's nothing on the schedule and I can just kick my feet-up and relax. All that's missing is a good book. And suddenly there's a knock at the door, but by the time I get to the door. My handsome UPS driver is long gone, but leaves my package.


OK don't get to crazy now, he knew I was home. Just a note I don;t recommend this unless you & your driver have a clear understanding. Plus you must also take into consideration the Thief. Enough about the UPS man. I already know where its from by the address on the label Conde Nast. I rip it open and see the dating book everyone has been asking for. “Always Hit On the Wingman”. Yes, I've been privilege to get first dibs on and provide my ASK KIMBERLY point of view. Now all I need are some snacks.

First some back history on Jake...

For more than fifty years, Glamour magazine's Jake columnist has served as a dating consigliere for millions of American women. Now, in his trademark no-B.S. Voice, Jake offered this indispensable guide for women. What are men really thinking? Among many other secret girl questions, I wont go into great 411 about. Jake has shared a man point of view insight, since 1956.


ASK KIMBERLY point of view...


I grab the book & immediately got comfortable to read it. Cover to cover all 191 pages of it. Anything relationships I'm all in. Its in my nature... The joyful romantic Virgo. I hadn't even got to the contents page & Jake has me laughing histrionically with his intro page: For everyone woman who's ever worn edible lingerie, Facebook-stalked a guy, or gone to bed with her phone on (just in case) and thought: There's got to be a better way. ROTFL (Rolling on the floor laughing). I can only admit to one and that's sleeping with my cell in the bed. I do it all the time & not because I'm waiting on a call. I use it as my alarm to wake-up in addition to read my scriptures first thing in the a.m. That's my story & I'm sticking to it.


I'll Call You... (Is this you ladies~View link)

On to Jake story...


To give you an idea about who Jake is, he's quite similar to Carrie Bradshaw from Sex in the City. There are a few differences though. Jake is kept anonymous and Jake provides a male perspective for the ladies. Jake provides real life stories, suggestions & insights to do the dating thing better. The book is filled with Aha Moments on Why you should Hit On the Wingman...and 9 other Secret Rules for getting the love life you want. There is also an essential secret on achieving that. I won't give it away, but I totally agree with Jake. Let's just say I'm that girl. Every now & then I found myself in tears laughing, because I just cant believe what women will do all in the name of LOVE. Throughout the book Jake shared some insights, so I tweeted a few with all my tweeps. Here are a few of my favorites


1. The best men don't send expensive flowers (Don't be upset you must read. Jake is keeping it real Chivalry).


2. You've got to broadcast your personality. If you're a nerd, let your nerd flag fly.


3. If he seems like a throwback, that's because he is a throwback.


4. You should fart in front of your guy just once. Just so you have the monkey off your back. (Remember Jake said this not me). I was laughing to myself for a good five minutes after I read this one.


I would love to share more with you, but I like you to experience what I experienced. I can truly say I'm really glad I'm comfortable in my own skin. Once you become the true you. You can most certainly laugh about the silly things & not take life so seriously. Embracing love is an extraordinary moment that can last a lifetime. Discovering who you are first, while connecting with someone else regardless if its for a season or a lifetime. Just enjoy the footsteps as you fall. Just when you do make sure he's the right person to catch you.


PS... As I mentioned earlier in my review Jake has been around for fifty-six-year's. Now not sure if you really got what I was saying. However let me break it down. There have been over a dozen Jakes during the years. A big part of the deal of being Jake is Jake must be single. “Always Hit On the Wingman” was written by one of the most recent. Without giving to much I'm elated to say Jake has fallen and found the perfect girl to catch him. Honestly that was the best part of reading the Wingman. Never underestimate the wingman.

Until next time live FABULOUS...

WHO ARE YOU???

Individuals who are hurting will
often try to reverse their "MIRROR" image
2U... Don't go for it!  Know WHO YOU ARE.

Life at times will play tricks on you or maybe its a test or even a life lesson. Recently I had to take a step back & remember You Attract Who You Are. I've been giving careful consideration to go back to school to receive a degree in Relationships Psychology. Asking myself is it even possible for me to set time a side to complete a dream ; a passion that has been in my heart for awhile now. In addition to checking off other aspirations I'm currently working on. Absolutely, one by one it shall be done. However, I'm still contemplating & pondering over the additional credential to add to my already full achievements. In the midst of it all I'm being tested & I haven't even started school yet.


You Attract Who You Are... OK let me explain this. As a Virgo I'm a compassionate, nurturing & sensitive to ones needs. A true confidant & support of those close to me and around me whether in business or personal. Its Who I Am. We are givers & when the chips are down & you need a friend we are the ones available during those testing times should you need advice or companionship. This is a positive as well as a negative. Important to know when to turn your light on & off so the forces don't drain Who You Are. I completely know Who I Am & what I will & will not stand for. I've learned early on that the opinions of others are heard but, the one I listen to, the one that matters in the end is “GOD”.


Aha....I had an Aha Moment late last night. Well actually at 1:57 a.m. Thoughts flowing , along with answers being receive by closely listening to the whisper. I immediately reach for my writing journal & put pen to paper. Hints this post. As I continuing writing so I may upload the completion by mid afternoon. I recognize the universe is testing me to make sure this is something I truly desire to do, by sending individuals to me for counsel. The interesting thing was, this was completely different because I mentor & support people all the time. Over the past several weeks I have been hit with an abundance of reverse energy. During this process of me having this Aha Moment. I also discovered I need to take my own advice.

*When people show you who they are.
“BELIEVE” it the first time.

Do not give them a second or third time.

Ding~Ding...Aha Moment. After having a conversation with a confidant, I completely got what one of the individuals was trying to do. “Discovery” Wanting me to accept their own disappointments in the cards of life they were dealt. There comes a point where you must stop feeling sorry for your circumstances & have “TRUST” & “FAITH” that God will turn things around. But it starts with you. You must be responsible for the energy people bring to you. At that exact moment I said to myself no more!

WHO ARE YOU?

I no longer know Who You Are... I can continue being a friend from a distance. This individual needs much more than I can give at this time. You can't create an identity for someone else, temporary feeding their soul. They must discover WHO they are on their own. I'm taking responsibility for the energy I desire in my life. As hard as it might be occasionally you will need to exit stage right. You can only be the motivational cheerleader for so long. Then soon that person needs to put their protective gear on & get in the game of life & play to “WIN”.

Food for the Soul...It's the faithfulness in the small things that is key to meeting life's great challenges victoriously.

Philippians 4:13
For I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength

Until next time live “FAITHFULLY” FABULOUS...

FINDING L♥VE at WHAT CO$T?

 *Disclaimer: This message & video is meant for
 those who or 18 and over. Intense subject matter.




Ladies you aren't alone... There are a few men waiting as well.
"Don't Settle" Wait until God's says proceed.

 
I'm going to share a story with you that  sounds straight out of a Lifetime movie. In life we feel if we follow God's footsteps all our blessings will be meet. If only life would be so easy.

Yes, that's what I learned as a child growing up & I try exceedingly hard to do the right thing. Unfortunately everyone doesn't have that same divine guidance as you. There is a strong chance you could come across many who tip toe through life with not so great intentions.

Getting Real...A big issue lies in the Cinderella story. Times have chance since that story book fairytale was told to me and for a lot of little girls who grasp on to that romantic glass slipper ending. The keyword all along is “FAIRYTALE”. Fairytale Meaning: 1. A story, usually for children about elves, hobgoblins, dragons, fairies or other magical creatures. 2. An incredible or misleading statement, account, or belief.

So, why do we continue to read such books to our children giving them false hope and not real reality? Which brings me to little girls fantasizing early on about their wedding day. The hopes of riding off into the sunset & living happily ever after. In our initial consultation with couples about their special day; one of the questions we ask is: What type of wedding do you envision? The answers we receive are remarkable. The wedding day should signify a day of two joining as one. The ceremony is the most important part, however the reception usually gets majority of the attention. Go into the marriage being real, not fantasizing about living in a magical castle with your fairy godmother granting every wish. Entering the marriage with that mindset & you will be disappointed. The wedding day is about the experience you create, an unforgettable celebration that is everything you've dreamt it would be. If you start it with false hope you will end with a false reality. Once all the guests have said their congratulations and gone home. The real planning of your “UNION” has just began. Will you be prepared?


As a wedding planner, mentor, writer & blogger who often speaks & addresses relationships topics. I'm always interested to see what women & men think about dating & marriage. I was invited to attend the YAM-Young Adult Ministry Relationship Series Part 3. It was only supposed to be one evening. Well the panel discussion was so intense, then headed by a long Q & A. It was fair to say there was a strong interest the YAM's wanted & needed more. YAM as young adults have real, legitimate questions and concerns about relationships and how to conduct themselves according to the word of GOD ...So a Part 4 was scheduled for the following week. OK get ready for the topic... Possible Signs of a Down Low Brother.

Panelists included: Pastor Sheryl Reaves who gave a heart wrenching testimony of the Down Low Brother ; Relationship Coach Ryeal Simms; Sister Sylvia Reid ; Newlyweds Mr. & Mrs. Ferguson-Editors of Impact the Magazine; Professor Precious Umunna and Comedian Ron Gee. OMGoodness Pastor Reaves story left me with my jaw to the ground & that is hard to do. I have heard it all, but this was deep. I truly believe even the other panelists were in Awe to her testimony. Coach Ryeal laid it out from a mans point of view. And let me just say it was a crystal clear view. Sister Reid, with her soft spoken voice that had all the men melting and paying attention closely, but her realness I loved it; Mr. & Mrs Ferguson the newlywed couple who shared there dating experience & just how they work together as a team was refreshing; Professor Umunna the knowledge that flows from her is direct and to the point & last but not least Ron Gee added his comedic touch to ease the room, but surprisingly shared a side of him I'm sure most didn't know was in him. Ron Gee actually, funny on the outside, but all soft & filled with substance on the inside. Yes, ladies he's one of the good brothers. The man you want but often don't give him a chance.

Relationship Series Part 3

Pastor Sheryl Reaves Mind Blowing Testimony

Possible Signs of a Down Low Brother

*Look for Pastor Reaves book in 2012

opening-up in depth about her true story.

~Setting Boundaries~At What Co$t Do You Find or Keep Love?
Prior to marriage there's a courtship. "Hopefully” If not see #3 below. I've personally learned a few boundaries you must possess when courting. It's so important not to get fully engulf in the courtship, that you either miss or ignore the “Red Flags”. Dating is optional. You can walk away at any given time. Marriage is a Union that two people should consider very carefully. Marriage is “CONTRACTIONAL”. I know that sounds extremely business like. Right? Well it is. Before a marriage is recognize you must sign a marriage license. You stand before God, Justice of the Peace, Pastor, Bishop or Rabbi (you get my point) And profess certain agreements as Husband & Wife. Marriage is a lot harder to walk away from &at times can take even longer than the planning of the wedding itself.


I'll never forget at a past Sunday Service at West Angeles COGIC. That particular morning we had a guest speaker- Dr. Cosby. The sermon title was " When God Doesn't Come".  A portion of Dr. Cosby sermon was about Praying Dumb Prayers.  Be careful what you pray for. Because you just may get it.  Dr. Cosby big question to the congregation ; Have you ever prayed a dumb prayer? A job you wanted or a person you wanted to date back in the day. Sometimes " When God Doesn't Come" you should say "Thank You".  If you click the WGDC link you will be able to listen to a portion of the sermon, but he goes into great detail that not only makes the congregation think but laugh with a Aha Moment I'm sure.

You've prayed to be with a certain individual. Prayer is answered... you receive, you court, you than marry. After year's of being with this person you are now praying :How to get rid of. (Figuratively NOT Literally) The congregation laughs. That was an Aha Moment for me. Yes, I did laugh but then reflected back to doing that exact thing in my mid 20's. I'm thankful to God that my prayer was answered because that relationship taught me a great deal. However, even more grateful that he stop me years later in another Aha Moment. Whispering to me,  my child this is not the one. I listen, but at the time really didn't understand Why. I had faith he would bring me through. His plan for my life was different than the plans I was making at that time. That's when I initially learned about seasons. People enter your life at times for a season & others for a lifetime. As I grew closer to the word, I knew it wasn't for me to understand. Just know that he always has my back & now I can face forward & continue to listen for the whisper. I completely understand & get it now & proceeding with my gut. “Always” listen to the Whisper, so you can avoid the Bang. Although I didn't marry that person, I can say we are the best of friends & continue to be there for each other through all seasons.

~5 Tips to Setting Boundaries, that will help you hear the Whisper to avoid the Bang~

1. ASK the right questions when dating. Not surface questions. Get to the hard core substance questions. Dig deep into the individuals character, beliefs, religion, family, future aspirations and past, etc. Yes, the past. A lot of people don't like to go there, but Why. You will learn a lot. What you don't ask you don't know.

Testimony: Asking the right questions, enabled Pastor Reaves to recognize that her significant other had a possible double lifestyle.


2. Don't be a serial dater. If you have a desire to be married, have kids, live out of the country in two years. Seek/Date someone who wants the same. If he/she says 3 months in; that's not what I want. Keep it pushing. Don't settle thinking that person will change their mind or you can change their mind. Revert back to Ques #1. ASK  in the beginning of the courtship.

Statement via Sister Sylvia Reid: I love this statement. You should only raise vegetables & children. Not your Boy/Girl Friend, Husband or Wife.


3. Listen to the whisper. If it sounds to good too soon. “Run”.


4. “ALWAYS” be your authentic self from day one. Do not send your representative and most importantly don't change who you are to please that individual. False pretense aren't reality in the long run. Get Real or Get Gone.


5. When someone shows you who they are the first time. “Believe It”. Do not stick around for a second or third time. Keep it Pushing.


Bonus Tip...Before you can truly give 100% love to another. Absolutely essential you l♥ve & know yourself first. If you don't completely know you, its impossible to know what you want or need for a lifetime. And above all "TRUST" God to guide your footsteps. This doesn't mean have your guard up 24-7. Doing so just may block the blessing God is sending to you.

If you like to attend a future YMA-Young Ministry Adult Bible Study. Headed up by Elder Manuel Thomas. It takes place Tuesday's at 7:00 pm at the West Angeles Performing Arts Theater located at 3020 Crenshaw Blvd. Los Angeles CA, 90016

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LOVE LETTER ...FOOD FOR THE SOUL

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LOVE LETTER TO KIMBERLY
REFLECTING ON THE YEAR
"FOOD FOR THE SOUL"

Dear Kimberly (Me),

Another year has come & gone, so much to reflect on. Where should I start... A year of dreams, promises, challenges and disappointments. The best part of it all. I'm Still Standing. Standing tall filled with inspiration and ready for what I know will be my best year yet. WHY? I discovered loving me on a level that is undeniably the greatest pleasure of knowing thyself. Highly flavored with flaws & all. This Dear Kimberly letter is a Love Letter to Me on the most precious month of all. My Birthday month. Every year I write a letter to myself reflecting on the past year. (View last year's letter) Birthday's are a celebration of you. The best present you can give yourself is PUSH each year to be a better you. Reflect, Refine and Research your trails, tribulations and transform them into positive assessments.

My Glamourscope via Glamour Magazine says: It's Going To Be A Big Love Month. Which makes my Birthday Letter title just Perfect! The full moon in Pisces on the 12th and the new moon in Libra on the 27th will cast a dreamy glow over all of us-a cue to let your inner Aphrodite call the shots. Wear a pretty dress, write a love letter to your man, chat up the ridiculously hot IT guy or just indulge in a romantic-comedy marathon. Then decide with whom you want to reenact it, and make it happen on either of those days-or both!

Whew... What a month I have in store. The love letter is covered with minor revisions; to Me and well play everything else by ear. Lot's to look forward to. The Glamourscope is all in fun. Learning not to take yourself so seriously while handling business when need be and the pleasure when time permits. Regardless of your age its never too late to improve you. Taking the proper steps to reflect and discover your calling. Just what I do every year at this time. Me stepping out on faith, hope & grace has kept me having a positive attitude, even when things aren't a bouquet of roses. I'm constantly working on Me. If God can continue to love me unconditional. Then I surly should do the same with no whining & no regrets.

My title for this post is “LOVE Letter to ME”. Taking care of numero uno is essential in life. Learning to live a lifestyle that is pleasing to God, while meditating continuously on Mind~Body and Soul is key for me. One of Virgo's traits is wanting to keep the peace and making sure everyone is happy. It took me a few years to learn that its a balancing act with your happiness & others happiness. Keeping the peace isn't always an option. God wants us to love our neighbors and treat each other with respect. Forget about that old saying respect is earned. That quote definitely isn't in the bible. And getting & receiving respect doesn't always happen which brings me to my Aha point. You must learn to love from a distance. What is good for you, may not be good for me. You can love it, but I don't need to like it. I have a higher calling to answer to and that is my ultimate focus. Below I'm going to share a few LOVE HONORS that I vowel to myself  for my Birthday and honoring into the 2012 year.

LOVE HONOR: A vowel, commitment, promise that one makes to themselves in order to live their best life in the eyes of all that is GOD's Greatness.

COUNTDOWN...OK this year I'm honoring LOVE and for the next 22 days up until my Birthday September 22nd I'll share I Honor Love By... To see my daily “LOVE HONOR” Like our Facebook Page or Follow Us on Twitter. That's where my LOVE messages honoring Me, will be shared. Loving you isn't a selfish act. Its loving you enough to honor all the greatness God has in store for your life, while you're here on earth. God has a remarkable purpose for your life, So what you have to do is follow him, believing that he'll keep directing you. Without battles, there is no blessings! And, there's no better time then now to honor yourself and live your best life.

Over the next 22 days you'll see insight into my aspirations, goals and dreams going forward. In addition you'll feel my words and life lessons I learned over this year. Although I'm all about the details I'm not perfect and have made some great successes, but also came across a few disappointments. The disappointments are stepping stones for me not to repeat but delete from my life. I review my year much like an entertainment system. There are three buttons I refer to Play (Following God's Footsteps) Rewind (Time to Assess) Pause (Delete) This means in business and personal life. If you want greatness in life you need to have the right players. In any sport when the players aren't working they get traded to another team. If their lucky. Its important to take time before the New Year to assess the same for your life. My time is before my Birthday. I do this because I know my worth and next to God loving me. I must look in the mirror everyday and there is no other option but to “LOVE ME”.

 September 1st

"LOVE HONOR"

1. I Honor Love By... Putting my love of GOD above all other loves.

Last week this song was sent to me with a note and honestly the timing couldn't have been better.  I knew back in July what the title of this Birthday letter would be. It never ceases to amaze me that when I'm working on a project the universe will send hints along the way. When you're in tune with self & lean on your spiritual connection, listen closely for an approval or dis-approval. The lyrics of this song is beyond inspirational and the essence of a love letter .

I highly recommend to honor you and write your own love letter to self. Extremely therapeutic. Should you like to share your letter with us, please send to ASK KIMBERLY. I must warn you though I will honor your words and hold you accountable for "ACTIONS".

With each year should come "WISDOM". If you're not growing, then you're not "SOWING" the right "SEEDS".

I Corinthians 13:11-14: When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror, then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully know. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
 
Until next time live FABULOUS...

DEAR KIMBERLY...THE YEAR OF FINDING MYSELF "29"

In a recent blog post titled GLAM'ONDAY ALERT~BIRTHDAY LETTER COUNTDOWN. I expressed details on something that I do every year. And since starting the details...the drezrehersal...the I Do's... where we share all thing events, weddings, relationships and lifestyle planning. What's near & dear to my heart is sharing my life experiences in personal & business with others. It's one of several "Golden Nuggets" I vowed to share once I reached a certain milestone in life.  I truly believe in providing knowledge to others who may be trying to reach a simpler lifestyle. GOD wants us to share our gifts with others and that will be my Birthday gift to you on September 1st. Before closing my last week's post I mentioned this statement.

I would love to motivate, mentor and most importantly be mindful of your dreams. If you like ideas on how you can get started, please send ASK KIMBERLY an email, Tweet Us or post your comments here.



We'll I received many emails & tweets and I like to share a Dear Kimberly letter from Miss. Shivawn A. Mitchell. Shivawn recently self publish her first book "Rewrite Your Story", which I introduced here on our Blog. However, since then the cover design has change & its FABULOUS. You'll be able to get more details on purchasing copies of the book below. I wanted Shivawn to share her personal story,  just to show my followers & readers that regardless of where you are in life. There is always room to "BETTER YOU".  I commend Shivawn and will be holding her accountable for her future goals & dreams that she has shared. As I always say writing your dreams & desires down makes you accountable.  Just make sure you take the time to thoroughly think about your dreams and goals, and make sure they cover the essential areas of life.  All while being mindful of these four words: Wisdom, Honesty, Patience and Love will push you to your destiny even more. So let's get it started...


Dear Kimberly,

Twenty Nine brought success, let downs, tears, excitement, inconsistency and eventually at the Aha Epiphany moment. At 29 Lady you were the poster child and spokesperson for the “Jack of all Trades and a Master of None”. You went from starting a online magazine to a women’s network and then your own book. But, the book stuck! Instead of pleasing yourself you were caught up in pleasing others in business ventures & in your personal life and that has never been you! You’ve lost friends, gained new ones.  Now you finally understand that it’s better to have a few good ones then a lot of posers. You've questioned where your “Guy” was and when the heck you would  leave that 9 to 5?

Through all the tears and laughs your book made you realize that failures and blunt truthfulness about life and being a LADY was your platform and true purpose in life! Thankful for the sunshine in recognizing your purpose. Later 29 it’s been some lessons.
30 is all about defining you and leaving your mark and giving it my best shot! I thought turning 30 would be a big pity party but instead it has turned into a BIG dream, bigger party and I LOVE it! I want so much in life, but instead of just hoping and not having a plan I have a master plan!

Heading to Dreamland

Shivawn Goals & Desires for "30"

• Laugh more. That hard tears rolling down your face can’t take it anymore laughing.
• Be a better friend, sister, daughter but with limits. I can’t fix people this year! I can encourage, pray for. And then your're on your own
• Release my final copy of my book in 2012
• Take a JUST ME vacation.
• Date
• Pour into myself! Read more, attend conferences and connect with people that can sharpen my skills
• Be in position to leave my 9 to 5
• Build my brand L.o.v.e.
• Be a great business partner
• Try new things. Just have fun!
• Meditate and have a better relationship with God

Unlike last year I have a plan on how I’m going to achieve these goals. I won’t go another day complaining about my situation but instead I will see what life is trying to teach me and learn from it. I want to inspire people,  so that means I need to give of my talents a little more. And I will operate by my new found personal mantra: I will no longer apologize for embracing & becoming who I am. I have survived much to qualify for this season in my life. I will not beg anyone to be a part of my life or business plans. I will inspire and shine light to help others. I am fabulous just the way I am. I AM a change agent!

Shivawn A. Mitchell
"Don't Just Have a Vision But Live it Loud"

To follow Shivawn on her journey Tweet her or check out her Website and you'll  be able reserve a copy of her book "Rewrite Your Story"~To be release in 2012. You may also leave comments directly here on our Blog, Follow Us on Twitter or send us your story at: ASK KIMBERLY.

Until next time live FABULOUS...

LIFE LESSON IN TRUST...

Going about your day requires patience & grace. Patience that you won't encounter some knucklehead to ruffle your feathers. Grace that you know how to handle without re-acting if it should happen. Part of my daily prayer always includes asking God to continue guiding me in the right direction that is his will for me along with patience, grace and hope. I started to really think about that those words that have consistently been the recipe for my day-to-day. Now, I know the world isn't always peaches and cream. Although that would be super sweet if it was. So when the peach goes bad & the cream goes sour. Who Do You Turn To?


Your first instinct may be to call a good friend. Take a deep breath so you're thinking clearly and not re-acting to the situation at hand. You should be careful who you share your thoughts with especially when everything is a big blur. Taking a timeout to re-gain your thoughts will provide you some solitude in what to do next. Having a confidant you can turn to is great. Having someone who has your best interest at all times is priceless. I had a moment in time yesterday that I needed to take my own advice. Instead of leaping out to a friend I knew there was a better way to handle what I was feeling & the relief I needed. Something I tell myself daily is: Let No One Steal Your Joy.  But, we're human & although I try to live a stress free life thinking happy thoughts throughout the day. The mood does shift from time to time. Where Should I Turn? PRAYER... In my moment of praying for answers with the situation I was dealing with. I had an Aha Moment of "TRUST". Trusting in God, that the exact issue I was upset about was something I had been praying on consistently for the past month. Not recognizing it at the time, this is exactly what I ask God for. And finally he answered my prayer just on his timeline. Placing trust in God that he will provide you the answers when the time is right. The word trust came over me seven times over. Re-evaluating what had taken place by just breathing, centering myself to think logically. To then realize I hadn't applied the three words I always include in my prayers everyday and yes the first thing I wanted to do was call a girlfriend  just to vent. Life comes with challenges and what may be monumental to us is a piece of cake to God. Trust in him to navigate you through the bad traffic of life.

To my surprise when I called one friend she didn't answer. I started to call another, but was interrupted by a incoming call. The funny thing is I know God intervene at both times guiding me to seek him. My Aha Moment of this story is TRUST. Placing your trust in God & not man. Friends, Family, Associates & Relationships will disappoint you. God will never disappoint you, lead you down the wrong path or give you bad advice. In no way Am I saying friends give you bad advice, but at times you're seeking a conflict of interest advice. Trusting takes 100% commitment and no one has your back more than GOD. You may be in the middle of a life challenge now or face one in the future. How the recipe turns out depends on if you use the right ingredients. The recipe is TRUSTING in God. To do this calls for Guidance, Grace, Patience and Obedience in seeking God's will. Trust God and not Man to guide you through the perfect recipe. We all have minor hiccups in life its part of growing and becoming a better you. I'm back on my square and ready to get in the game called life. There's a reason for In God We Trust being placed on our currency. If you know the reason why, please share by commenting below or should you had an Aha Moment we love to hear your story.

drezrehersal Tip... Life Lesson I learned today is that it takes year's to gain trust and just a single moment to destroy it. Place your trust in God's hands for he will never forsake you or betray you by sharing what you bring to him in "TRUST".

Never Would Have Made It

Food for the Soul...
Psalm 12:6: The Lord's promise are pure, like silver refined in a furnace purified seven time over.


Psalm 13:5-6: But I trust in your unfailing love. I will rejoice because you have rescued me. I will sing to the Lord because he is good to me.

Psalm 37:4: Take delight in the Lord , and he will give you your hearts desires.

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