ASK KIMBERLY...Loving Two Whats a Girl to Do?

 

Q: Dear Kimberly
I'm a single woman currently dating two men, which I'm enjoying the company of both. Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time?

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A: That's a great question to ask, I'm sure you feel tide between the two of them. While you may have feelings for both of the men, that's  a very strong statement to make that you think you love them both. What you're feeling may be a combination of attraction mixed with confusion because you aren't allowing yourself to be connected to just one. Trying to balance two relationships at the same time ones emotions can easily get misconstrued for something stronger, and in the end not a fair trade to yourself or the gentlemen.  I recommend taking an assessment of your real feelings by writing  five reasons for each on why you love them. I want you to truly take sometime to come up with five answers of substance verses surface. I.e: Martin is attractive. (That's a surface answer, not substance). Get down to the core of character qualities. Upon completion, please follow these 3 Steps  (1) Read once. (2) After reading place aside for three or more days, but no longer than five.  (3)  On day three re-visit your answers. I guarantee you once you place your thoughts on paper  things will become crystal clear.


Many think love is a feeling, however its an action that requires the 3C's: Character, Communication, and  Commitment. The 3C's require participation by two and UN-balanced if only one is contributing.  Try to get pass what you're feeling, because  that is clouding your judgment. Things that make us feel good aren't necessarily good for us, take the emotions out of it so you understand what the true feelings are for both gentlemen. After all is said and done and you still have strong feelings for both, the next step is be honest with both men, as  they should have the option to decide if they want to continue dating you as well. Many are confused by the word dating; the definition has  different meaning for many. Keep in mind both guys may very well know that you're seeing them both, but on the other hand they may not. These goes back to the 3C's "Character" is important in a relationship, if you have none, you can't expect to receive it in return.

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Until next time live FABULOUS...

~Kimberly